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Journey into the world of hyperemesis gravidarum...
28Apr 15

Well the Duchess had it now they all want it, and other ludicrous things people say

“It’s fashionable now the Duchess has had it, they all want it”

Oh yes, and if the Duchess broke her leg the mothers of Britain would head to the nearest play part and hurl themselves off the climbing frame to sport a matching plaster cast. Obviously.


“Oh I had that but I just got on with it, I didn’t have to go to hospital, I nibbled ginger biscuits”

It’s a bit like….

“You’ve just got out of hospital for puemonia? Oh for goodness sake… I had a cold the other day and I just drank some hot honey and lemon and bought those soft Kleenex with aloe vera… you should try that next time instead of IV antibiotics!”


“You shouldn’t take that medication while you’re pregnant… haven’t you heard of Thalidomide? Your baby will be deformed!”

And there was me thinking medical knowledge and research had moved on in the last 60 years. So while we’re in the process of eschewing all medical treatment in pregnancy, such as anti-biotics for life threatening infections, because once 60 years ago one drug caused a problem, lets also decline the other medical advances in the last 60 years… vaccinations, chemotherapy, safe anaesthetics, heart and brain surgery, the ability to not die from thousands of conditions… ya know all that stuff.


“Pregnancy isn’t an illness… you shouldn’t make such a fuss”

Yeah pregnancy isn’t an illness – it’s a whole other level of risk taking and death dicing for the sake of our drive to reproduce… Even now around the world an estimated 275,000 women killed each year in childbirth and pregnancy, although the vast majority of those are in the developing world today it’s really not that long since 1 in 20 women would die during pregnancy and childbirth. Hyperemesis gravidarum was the leading cause for early pregnancy deaths and there have been UK deaths from complications of hyperemesis gravidarum in the last 10 years.


“It’s harder on the poor men when their wives have hyperemesis gravidarum”

Find me a man who has witnessed his wife suffer this condition while carrying his offspring that agrees with this statement… go on, I dare you.


“Well I’ve never heard of it… it must be in your head”

Oh yeah cos you’ve heard of every medical condition to have ever been documented – what are you, wiki-fucking-pedia???


“Morning sickness is over at 12 weeks… it never lasts longer than that so you’re either some sort of freak or making it up”

Um, for the 1 millionth time, IT’S NOT MORNING SICKNESS, it’s sort of vaguely similar in that morning sickness is like a very very very mild version of hyperemesis gravidarum and 2 of the symptoms (nausea and vomiting) and cause (pregnancy) are common to both… like a cold is a very very very mild version of the flu, they share similar symptoms such as a runny nose, sneezing and fever and both are caused by virus’s. Or like how spraining your ankle is like a very very very mild version of breaking your ankle, it shares pain in the ankle region as a common symptom and both are caused by injury to the area.


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BEST one - it's a case of mind over matter. Said to my FACE, while spewing. Eee I was cross.
Mim, 28th April 2015

BEST one - it's a case of mind over matter. Said to my FACE, while spewing. Eee I was cross.
Mim, 28th April 2015

From an in law: how bizarre [you are so sick] I didn't even feel sick when I was pregnant. How funny you are so ill. Yep hilarious. Have you tried ginger or those wristbands for seasickness? Boiled eggs and apricots .. That's what got me through my sickness (said by GP as she admitted me for my third lot of fluids in a week) You need to get in a routine of eating crackers before you step out of bed. It's all psychological.
Sarah kitcher, 28th April 2015

Nearly every woman I've spoken to had not heard of HG, yet they claimed were just as bad as me with sickness. Except they didnt dehydrate and end up in hospital, living on anti-emetics, spewing all hours, have to stop working or live on crackers for months on end, no, they said the ginger cured it for them!!!
Hayley, 28th April 2015

someone said to me the other day after they asked me if I was going to have another baby, and I said no, I can't look after a toddler and have HG, that this time I wouldn't be able to indulge myself and lay in bed all day, I would have to get up and cope because I have another child to look after and therefore that might make me feel better!!!
Julia, 28th April 2015

"You just need to drink more water...that's your problem..." Hmph, yep, thanks.
Marie, 28th April 2015

The best one so far is, you took medical leave at 10 weeks? Couldn't you have just called in sick for a few days? Umm no. If I could have I would have trust me I don't enjoy being broke.
Brit , 29th April 2015

At least you won't put on much weight this pregnancy I wish I was as lucky as you! Ummm lucky! Really!
kerrie, 29th April 2015

I was told by a midwife while having treatment that I was like this because I hadn't drunk enough water. You try keeping water down after being sick 15 times a day
hannah marshall, 29th April 2015

I had a midwife on the phone tut-tut at me and tell me that I MUST keep some water down.
Vicky Harris, 30th April 2015

Apparently (according to my midwife) all i need is dry cereal & ice cold water, i told her that it didnt work with my last 2 pregnancies and it isnt working with this one. She then switched to well it's only until you're 12weeks, the dutchess had it and she was ok by then. I'm now 27weeks & my sick bucket is still the only one who knows me inside out!
Leanne Dering, 2nd May 2015

I have lost count the amount of times I have been asked have you tried ginger, seasickness bands, dry crackers even by midwives and doctors. The very thought of ginger makes me retch. Now 18wks still got HG. When will it go!!
Joy, 3rd June 2015

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Information and support for pregnancy sickness and hyperemesis gravidarum. Views are my own and do not represent those of any other organisation. Information provided here should not be a substitute for medical advice. My aim is to raise awareness and encourage sufferers to know they are not alone.

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